A Gotti Wedding
https://www.cbsnews.com/pictures/a-gotti-wedding/5
You need a big cake to feed 1,500 guests. "I didn't know half of the people at my wedding..." Victoria told "48 Hours Mystery" correspondent Troy Roberts. "They weren't there for me."
Victoria Gotti: Setting the Record Straight
https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/victoria-gotti-talks-life-mafia-princess-8699130
Gotti had 1,500 guests at her New York wedding, many of them involved in the mob. The picture shows her in tears.
When it comes to planning the perfect wedding, one of the most significant decisions a couple faces is determining the size of their celebration. The debate between hosting a grand, large-scale wedding versus an intimate, small gathering is a timeless one. Each option comes with its own set of pros and cons, and finding the right balance is crucial to creating a memorable and meaningful experience for both the couple and their guests.
The Pros of Large Weddings:
Celebration Extravaganza: Large weddings offer the chance to celebrate with a vast network of friends, family, and acquaintances. This provides an opportunity to share the joyous occasion with a diverse group, making it a festive and lively affair.
Diverse Entertainment Options: With more guests comes the ability to diversify entertainment options. A large wedding can afford extravagant live bands, professional DJs, and even interactive activities to keep guests entertained throughout the celebration.
Grand Decor and Venue Choices: A larger guest list often necessitates a grander venue, allowing for opulent decorations and more luxurious settings. Couples can explore a wide range of venues, from grand ballrooms to picturesque outdoor locations, to create a visually stunning backdrop for their special day.
Networking and Socializing: Large weddings provide an excellent opportunity for networking and socializing. Guests can connect with others they may not have seen in years, fostering new friendships and strengthening existing relationships.
Gifts and Financial Contributions: A larger gathering may result in more substantial financial contributions and valuable gifts from guests. This can help the couple kickstart their new life together with a little extra financial support.
The Cons of Large Weddings:
Increased Costs: The most apparent drawback of a large wedding is the substantial increase in costs. From catering expenses to venue fees, a larger guest list often translates to a higher overall budget, potentially putting a strain on the couple's finances.
Limited Intimacy: Large weddings can make it challenging for the couple to spend quality time with each guest. The event may feel less personal, with fleeting moments shared with a vast number of attendees.
Logistical Challenges: Coordinating a large wedding involves managing numerous logistics, from seating arrangements to transportation for guests. The complexity of handling a larger crowd can add stress to the planning process.
Less Control Over Guest Experience: With more people in attendance, it becomes challenging to ensure that every guest has a seamless and enjoyable experience. Individual preferences may be overlooked, and some guests may feel lost in the crowd.
Potential for Drama: Larger gatherings may increase the likelihood of interpersonal conflicts or family drama. Managing different personalities and expectations can be more demanding in a large wedding scenario.
The Pros of Small Weddings:
Intimate Atmosphere: Small weddings create a more intimate and personal atmosphere, allowing the couple to share their special day with their closest friends and family. This can enhance the emotional significance of the event.
Cost-Effective: One of the most significant advantages of a small wedding is the potential for cost savings. With fewer guests to accommodate, expenses related to catering, venue, and other services can be significantly reduced.
Meaningful Connections: A smaller guest list enables the couple to spend quality time with each guest, fostering meaningful connections and creating lasting memories with those who matter most.
Flexibility in Venue Choices: Small weddings provide the flexibility to choose unique and unconventional venues that may not be suitable for larger gatherings. This opens up possibilities for destination weddings, backyard celebrations, or cozy indoor settings.
Reduced Stress: Planning a small wedding generally involves fewer logistical challenges and reduced stress. The focus can shift from managing a large crowd to creating a more personalized and stress-free experience.
The Cons of Small Weddings:
Limited Guest List: The most obvious drawback of a small wedding is the limited number of guests who can attend. This may lead to difficult decisions about whom to invite, potentially causing tension among friends and family members.
Fewer Entertainment Options: Smaller weddings may have limitations when it comes to entertainment choices. Live bands or elaborate performances might not be feasible, and the overall celebration may lack the grandeur associated with larger events.
Less Financial Support: With a smaller guest list, the likelihood of receiving substantial financial contributions or valuable gifts may decrease. Couples relying on gifts to help cover wedding costs may find themselves with a smaller financial cushion.
Restricted Networking Opportunities: The intimate setting of a small wedding may limit opportunities for guests to connect and network. Those who enjoy socializing with a broader circle may miss out on the chance to meet new people.
Reduced Energy and Vibrancy: While small weddings can be cozy and intimate, they may lack the energy and vibrancy that come with a larger crowd. The atmosphere might be quieter, and the celebration may not reach the same level of excitement as a grand event.
In conclusion, the decision between a large or small wedding ultimately depends on the couple's preferences, priorities, and budget. While large weddings offer a grand and celebratory atmosphere, small weddings provide intimacy and cost savings. Striking the right balance and understanding the trade-offs can help couples create a wedding that aligns with their vision and values, ensuring a memorable start to their journey together.
And remember to plan for the marriage while you're planning for the wedding. A wedding is usually only one day, a marriage prayerfully is forever.
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EVERY senior community needs an inoperable car with working radio in their parking lot. That way the senior can sit in it rocking out for the memories. For some that might be the only joy they have in life, especially if their families have taken them to senior communities or nursing homes and rarely, if ever, visit.
We think ALL HUD housing needs Solar. Just think of all the money they'd save the government!
Susan Auslander, age 89, Spearheaded a Solar-Energy Drive in Connecticut and it worked!
An octogenarian Hunter College alumna has spearheaded a successful drive to install solar panels throughout her Connecticut retirement community — and she’s just getting started.
(This was not for low income housing, but it could be.)
CLICK HERE TO READ WHAT SHE DID
Her Retirement Home Said ‘No’ to Solar Panels. She Got It to Buy 1,344.
In what seemed like a futile fight with her retirement community’s management, Susan Auslander, just shy of 90, found an opening.
CLICK HERE TO READ MORE ABOUT WHAT Susan Auslander did
Things my mom did when she lived in MN before she came back home to Colorado (Click news article name to read more.)
Got a bus stop at the library
and
Marshall woman petitions to have bus stop at library
Helped turn ALL HUD housing into non-smoking
Another game-changer in the works to eliminate smoking
and
HUD SECRETARY CASTRO ANNOUNCES PUBLIC HOUSING TO BE SMOKE-FREE
New rule protects health and safety of residents, saves PHAs millions of dollars in preventable damage
Nov 30, 2016
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), HUD's national smoke-free policy will save public housing agencies $153 million every year in repairs and preventable fires, including $94 million in secondhand smoke-related health care, $43 million in renovation of smoking-permitted units, and $16
https://archives.hud.gov/news/2016/pr16-184.cfm#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20Centers%20for,smoking%2Dpermitted%20units%2C%20and%20%2416
(Just think of how much it would save our government to add solar to HUD/low income housing!)
How To Use The Internet To Pay For Your Dental Bills
This is how mom got the funds to finance some of her dental work 8 years ago
(THE LINKS THEY TALK ABOUT FOR MOM ARE NO LONGER VALID - THIS WAS FILMED 8 YEARS AGO)
This is mom's interview on a National podcast. She was also interviewed by NBC National News about the harassment and stalking she's endured in 1994. It's off-and-on to this day, December 13, 2023.
